Anonymous asked:
Hi beautiful, haven't seen a post from you in a while. Hope you're okay, hope school isn't too rough. Stay beautiful and keep smiling

Hola. Yeah I’m good. Just really busy so I don’t have time to go on here as much anymore. Sorry.

Anonymous asked:
Hello to the cutest girl. Hope the schooling isn't too painful. Hope that your trip home for the holidays will be jolly. Keep smiling beautiful

Awwwww thank you so much! But I am far from the cutest girl. And this week is finals week for us, but I just finished my first final, one of my professors changed his final (which was worth 30% of our grade) to an open book quiz, and I feel prepared for my last final! And I hope you have good holidays too!!

TO ALL ADOPTEES

I just started typing out all the feelings I have about my adoption that society usually shuts down, and man does it feel good. I want to post it when I finish, but I’m very scared. That got me thinking that I can’t be the only one like this. So what I want you to do is this:

  1. type out all your feelings about adoption that would be shut down by society or that you feel you can’t say. For me, it’s a list of all the things I hate about my adoption.
  2. Send it to me.

What am I going to do with it? I’m going to ANONYMOUSLY post it. That way you can get your feelings out to the world, but not have to worry about people knowing it’s you. You’re feelings and opinions are valid, real, right, and important. You can say however much as you want, but please don’t put any identifying information in it. I promise that the only people who will know who wrote which will be you, and me at the time that I post it (I have a really bad memory and even if I get one submission I know I’ll end up forgetting who wrote it).

Please pass this on to other adoptees. You do NOT have to follow me to get your opinion posted. You do NOT have to submit anything. I just want this to be an open space where every voice can be heard an validated. All hate to anyone’s opinion will be removed from my blog and blocked. I really hope you choose to submit something. I will be making a page where all of them get collected for anyone on my blog to see. You can submit whenever you want, this will never end. I promise to keep you anonymous. If you ask to not be anonymous, I will still make you anonymous. If you want to have a private conversation with me about it, I’d be more than happy to talk to you!

Thank you for reading and I hope you submit something! (Only submissions from adoptees will be posted, if this is popular enough I will do ones for adoptive parents/family, bio parents/family, and anyone not related to adoption in any way)

Partial Identity Confusion

So at the beginning of this past summer i dyed my hair black so I would feel more like the latina I identify as. But I’ve been looking thru my senior photos again and have been thinking about letting the brown fully grow back, but am not sure. I love my black hair when it’s curly, which is how I usually wear it, but I love my brown hair straight. I want to love my brown hair curly and fell I look like a latina with it, but I just don’t. I’m very torn and would like some opinions.

Just had someone say a racist comment to me for the first time in my life! So that’s how my day is going.

Update: he wants a “free strike” No. Racism gets no free strikes or forgiveness.

Update 2: a friend tried to tell me I’m wrong.

"#228. I get tired sometimes of feeling like I have to validate other people’s feelings and experiences with adoption. As soon as I mention any detail or bit about my story, it immediately makes them think of someone (either family or friend) they knew who adopted and then they proceed to tell me the whole story and ask me questions about things they don’t understand or lecture me about adoption facts and procedures, as if they are some great expert from the few articles and stories they have read and heard. But who is going to validate my experience for what it’s worth? Who out there will listen without going on about so and so’s story and how beautiful a family they make now? Will anyone listen to me for just me?"

Anonymous  (via confessions-of-an-adoptee)

This is so on point I can’t explain it. Which is so sad. To whoever sent this, I will listen. This is why I’m joining the fight for the adoptee voice to be heard! We’ve been silenced for too long and our opinions and thoughts matter the MOST!!!

"#230. I love my “adoptive” family, and since they’ve raised me, I almost forget that we aren’t blood related. I always seem to struggle with my birth mother, though, because it feels like no matter how hard I try, she always creeps into my thoughts. ‘I wonder how she’s doing…’ ‘Does she think of me?’ ‘I wonder if she’s forgotten me already…’"

Anonymous (via confessions-of-an-adoptee)

"#231. I spend my life in limbo between being grateful for the life I was given and grieving the life that was taken from me before I even was given a chance to live it."

onceuponalifetime1 (via confessions-of-an-adoptee)